Guy, I really enjoy your ability to generously share lessons from family life. As a parent, I'm amazed by how much my interactions with my kids continue to teach me about conflict resolution and negotiation. Thanks for sharing your joy in the day to day discoveries.

Fundamental attribution error. It's hard to remember that we ascribe adverse consequences of our own behavior to circumstances & adverse consequence of other people's behavior to their intention b/c we can CONTROL (or believe we can) behavior of others but know we can't control harm causing circumstances. It's not only good to recall that we fall prey to this cognitive bias for the sake of others, it's good to remember that it's more or less natural for us to fall prey to it so we can forgive ourselves the error and move on. It's all about learning to take our part in whatever's going on and to remember, as a wise friend once told me, that we are not the piece of $%#@ around which the world revolves. WHAT a relief!

Thanks for the comments Vickie and for the reminder that we all “fall prey to this cognitive bias.” I agree that we need to learn to forgive ourselves as much as we forgive others. Realizing that “it's not about me anyway” helps me to stay on track with this advice.

Great to hear from you.

Hi Jenny,

Thanks for stopping by and for the kind words.

Your blog came up when I searched for help. This was actually what I was looking for, and I am glad that I finally came here! Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work!