Comments on: Take Responsibility For Your Contribution http://principledriven.com/blog/mindset/self-control/take-responsibility-for-your-contribution/ Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:33:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Guy Harris http://principledriven.com/blog/mindset/self-control/take-responsibility-for-your-contribution/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Guy Harris Wed, 16 Jul 2008 01:50:03 +0000 http://principledriven.com/blog/2008/07/14/take-responsibility-for-your-contribution/#comment-19 Tammy, Thanks for the comments. It's good to have "met" you in the blogging world. I like your comment about conflict being ego-challenging and that much of our reaction is ego self-protection. I couldn't agree more. Tammy,

Thanks for the comments. It’s good to have “met” you in the blogging world.

I like your comment about conflict being ego-challenging and that much of our reaction is ego self-protection. I couldn’t agree more.

]]> By: Tammy Lenski http://principledriven.com/blog/mindset/self-control/take-responsibility-for-your-contribution/comment-page-1/#comment-18 Tammy Lenski Tue, 15 Jul 2008 08:53:37 +0000 http://principledriven.com/blog/2008/07/14/take-responsibility-for-your-contribution/#comment-18 Guy, thanks for both the shout out about my post and for building on what I wrote with your own contributions here. You're so right that most of the phrases essentially shift the blame off the speaker's shoulders. I've always said to my conflict management students that conflict is a very ego-challenging place and a lot of what we do in reaction is driven by ego self-protection. And over-soothing our own egos feels and looks a lot like blame. Guy, thanks for both the shout out about my post and for building on what I wrote with your own contributions here.

You’re so right that most of the phrases essentially shift the blame off the speaker’s shoulders. I’ve always said to my conflict management students that conflict is a very ego-challenging place and a lot of what we do in reaction is driven by ego self-protection. And over-soothing our own egos feels and looks a lot like blame.

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