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	<title>Resolving Conflict in Teams &#187; Self-control</title>
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		<title>Just Say &#8220;I&#8217;m Sorry&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2009 16:11:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This post is now here. I have moved my blog to RecoveringEngineer.com. Here are excerpts from my two most recent posts. Please join me at my new blog. Subscribe to RSS headline updates from: Powered by FeedBurner]]></description>
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		<title>Experience Is Mandatory But Learning Is Optional</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Aug 2009 21:42:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This post is now here. I have moved my blog to RecoveringEngineer.com. Here are excerpts from my two most recent posts. Please join me at my new blog. Subscribe to RSS headline updates from: Powered by FeedBurner]]></description>
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		<title>Don&#8217;t Get Angry Because They Don&#8217;t Understand</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 14:27:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m running a bit behind in my preparations for a trip today, and most of my blog readers are not my newsletter readers. So, I&#8217;m posting my most recent newsletter article here today. I&#8217;ll be back for my next scheduled post this Thursday. ________________________________ When you have explained something a number of times to the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Are You Afraid Of?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2009 13:30:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Conflict Resolution]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yoda On Fear Yoda Rap (sort of funny) In The Phantom Menace, the great Jedi master Yoda says: &#8220;Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.&#8221; Fear in one or both parties is often the root of conflict, and we all fear something. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>I Might Be Wrong</title>
		<link>http://principledriven.com/blog/relationships/i-might-be-wrong/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:24:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have seen &#8220;problem&#8221; defined as &#8220;a situation that you want to change.&#8221; Under this definition, if I don&#8217;t want to change the situation, I don&#8217;t have a problem. If, I want to change the situation, then I have a problem. Every situation that I want to change has something wrong with it. In general, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What To Do When Everyone You Work With Is An Idiot</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 22 Jun 2009 20:23:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Mindset]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[If everyone that you work with is an idiot, I have a suggestion for you: Check your attitude. Or, as I heard a speaker say one time, &#8220;Give your head a shake.&#8221; In Winning with People, John Maxwell defines what he calls the Bob Principle: &#8220;If Bob has a problem with everyone, then Bob is [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Positively Impact The Future</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Apr 2009 15:00:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you look through my blog, you will probably notice that Tammy Lenski is one of my favorite conflict resolution bloggers. She consistently has great content at Conflict Zen. This weekend, I noticed this post where she mentions that she will be speaking at a Women&#8217;s Leadership Summit in Manchester, NH in June. Her post [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Use the Power of the Pause</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Mar 2009 02:36:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The well timed and disciplined pause can be a great conflict resolution tool. While conflict resolution nearly always requires a face-to-face conversation, knowing when not to speak can be just as important as knowing when to speak and what to say. As Abraham Lincoln said: &#8220;I am very little inclined on any occasion to say [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Thought for Thursday: Assume positive intent until they prove otherwise</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 19:03:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In my last post, I offered three ways to Be a Victor, Not a Victim. In the context of conflict resolution, the thought is not about seeking victory during a conflict. Rather, the thought is about taking personal responsibility so that we don&#8217;t &#8220;play the victim&#8221; by blaming the other party. Today, I&#8217;m offering a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Could It Be Me?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Feb 2009 20:07:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Guy Harris</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have two colleagues. Both of them contribute something valuable to our personal and professional relationships. Both of them are good at what they do. Both of them have strong opinions. Both of them feel free to express their opinions. Both of them have direct and bottom-line communication styles. Both of them have a very [...]]]></description>
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